Besides all of that, I worry a bit that I won’t fit into my dress properly. I fit into it at the moment, but what if something weird happens and I put on 5kgs? I suppose that doesn’t happen without eating WAY too much, but hey, I’m thinking of everything that could possibly go wrong.

We’ve been making so many decisions, talking to other couples for advice, and weighing up our options.

To top this all off, there are people who make life extremely difficult.

I suppose its not on purpose, but please people, if you haven’t had a wedding of your own yet, note this! If you’re one of the priviledged people to get a wedding invite, be sure to rsvp on time. We put the date there for a reason. There are certain things that we need to plan, and book with the number of guests in mind. This also means, that when you get an invite, the people who its addressed to are the people invited – and ONLY THOSE PEOPLE. If I wanted to invite your kids, I would’ve said so. If the card says “We regret, no children”, your kiddies are to be included, and you will have to get a baby sitter – we’re not organizing that FOR you. (We have more than enough other things to do) If you get a card with ONLY your name in, it means that ONLY you are invited. If we wanted to invite a partner for you, we would’ve stated that explicitly. You see, weddings take a lot of planning and thinking. We THOUGHT about all the words on the invite to make it as clear as possible. You see, we don’t want to confuse you, causing you to ask awkward questions.

When there is a person who you should rsvp to, don’t phone the bride or groom – we have enough other things on our mind. Even if it means you have to phone the ‘other family’, do that – they’ve been specifically asked to mark your names on a list, and if you don’t let the RIGHT person know about this, you might end up being forgotten.

Lastly, if you want to give something, make sure you know about something that the couple needs specifically. A crap ornament could be such an embarrasment. The couple will feel obliged to display this somewhere in their home when you come to visit, and hide it deep in a cupboard for the rest of the time. Most newly weds don’t need things like egg timers and all that. Rather give them a sincere card, and if you really want MONEY. We can always buy something which we really like then, and avoid feeling obliged to use something which is hideous to us. You don’t NEED to give money though. A card and sincere warm wishes are often more appreciated than those things which we will never use in any case.

Personally we need ALOT of kitchen stuff, but now, what happens when I get doubles? I don’t know – someone has to have some sort of record of what I do have, and what people are buying, thus eliminating that possibility of doubles – right? But that just seems too rigid. I guess I’m too relaxed to organize everything so perfectly.

Lastly, just keep in mind. If you’re invited, it means that the bride and groom really thought about you, and WANTED you to be there on their special day. Help make their day the best!