I have recently found that a friend I thought to be a good friend lies to me. On a regular basis. The thing is, we share a lot of common friends, and strangely enough I have found that she always has a different story when its just me and her, but as soon as there are other people around she starts telling a different story. When not doing that, I have found that she has said something to me accident, something she didn’t plan to admit.
The mature thing to do would be to confront her, right? So I tried that, but it didn’t work. I asked her why she said something, and then she just denied it. 
Its as if she enjoys keeping things from me, or as if she likes to tell me things that are not true. She’s also forgotten to invite us to certain socials that all our other friends were invited to… Its just so weird.
I could’ve understood if she was maybe a bit sour, then I might have assumed that she didn’t want to be friends anymore. But the thing is, she contacts me, and seems extremely friendly. Is it possible that she’s a compulsive liar? Or The other thing that I suspect is that she was asked not to talk about certain things, and then tries her best not to talk to me about it, but then somehow it slips out that she knew about it while I asked her if she did, and she denied knowing.
It bothers me because I believe that people should be honest in all relationships, and it hurts to know that a person doesn’t even have the decency to be honest.
I wouldn’t blame you if you found this confusing, but its just so awkward, and I had to get it written out. Besides you might have some good advice for me 
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Well I guess you’ve done all you could do and confronted her about it.
I’m sure she has her reasons for saying or not saying certain things to you whatever they may be. But at the end of the day, if she keeps getting you down after you try talking to her about it then write her off. You don’t need people in your life who bring you down.
Life’s just too short.
Bummer that you have a friendship with someone who is dishonest. It is rather hard to reason with someone who doesn’t share your value system. I learned the hard way that you can’t throw your own standards on someone else. They won’t understand.
If I were in your shoes, I would evaluate why I am even friends with this person and go on from there. Maybe you can find the positive aspects. You don’t have to be best buds. But establishing definite boundaries is a must for dishonest people.
People aren’t very good at the honesty thing. They’re so bad at it they even lie to themselves.
Sadly the root cause is usully insecurity on their part, they think if you knew them you wouldn’t like them.
But having said that, no ways should you let them poison your life …
Peace
abraxas, that is very true. I suppose that is the best reason for her behavious: insecurity.
Though I feel sorry for her, I still feel that honesty should be the basis of every relationship. If there isn’t honesty, there really isn’t any point.
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